tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post716514705552259359..comments2023-09-28T06:59:59.297-04:00Comments on Little Moments, Big Moments: The Great Gender Debate of 2013Laura http://www.blogger.com/profile/14999684457315081240noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-28434435693854861312013-06-18T19:07:45.885-04:002013-06-18T19:07:45.885-04:00I really had to know. I don't think for my fir...I really had to know. I don't think for my first baby that I could have waited to find out. I can see both sides, really, but I just don't think it's for me, or us as a couple. That's great you both could discuss it and see both sides of it. I'm sure the suspense will make your parents and friends crazy! haha But it will be such a fun surprise the day he/she is born! :)Nicole-Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03764959533612146877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-41117054417262385202013-06-18T15:41:26.956-04:002013-06-18T15:41:26.956-04:00I haddd to find out...I don't really like the ...I haddd to find out...I don't really like the yellow and green colors so I knew I wanted to figure out baby clothes and room things. I also wanted to figure out names. Personally I don't like surprises. Once we found out the gender we felt like our baby was even more real...we would talk about her using her name. Now maybe with baby #2 I would like to be team green...hahahelizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18292208340580934049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-87218558442737524152013-06-13T22:48:33.018-04:002013-06-13T22:48:33.018-04:00oh i wanted to know for my son but maybe with the ...oh i wanted to know for my son but maybe with the second one...we may be surprised...that would be a lot of fun!!Mrs. Pancakeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03441934318368344653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-80153009101041986442013-06-13T17:42:28.683-04:002013-06-13T17:42:28.683-04:00It's great that you thought things through and...It's great that you thought things through and considered the pros and cons on both sides. I personally think I will want to find out the gender, buy gender-specific things, etc., because I am just way too impatient to wait nine months. I also really want to have a gender reveal party with family and friends. Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13226523010102160874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-73795141629089208262013-06-13T12:33:23.420-04:002013-06-13T12:33:23.420-04:00I've heard stories of doctors and nurses slipp...I've heard stories of doctors and nurses slipping and saying the gender in front of the couple. So..it does and can happen. You just have to be diligent about telling alllll people as soon as you see them at the doctor's that you are NOT finding out the gender, but of course, things happen. Laura https://www.blogger.com/profile/14999684457315081240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-44623695566853881132013-06-12T17:25:44.023-04:002013-06-12T17:25:44.023-04:00I agree, Shannon brought up some good points. I co...I agree, Shannon brought up some good points. I considered myself anal too..so this will be a good practice for me...(if i can hold out!!)Laura https://www.blogger.com/profile/14999684457315081240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-13825707834874478282013-06-12T16:49:58.796-04:002013-06-12T16:49:58.796-04:00I love that deal you've made :) You two have ...I love that deal you've made :) You two have certainly earned the right to find out as soon as possible after all the time you've waited. I can't wait to hear what you're having!! I think if we don't find out for this one, i'll want to know for the second (because I'll have to know if I will indeed def. be having a third or not depending on what it is! LOL)Laura https://www.blogger.com/profile/14999684457315081240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-28803059888574747942013-06-12T15:42:42.774-04:002013-06-12T15:42:42.774-04:00Good for you! My brother and sister-in-law wanted ...Good for you! My brother and sister-in-law wanted to know, and they're having a boy. I think I'd be afraid that at some appointment an ultrasound tech or nurse, or even your doctor, would accidentally let the news spill!! I think I'd find out just because I'm such a nut about planning!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11067087986650754525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-71986157121794908332013-06-12T15:10:21.199-04:002013-06-12T15:10:21.199-04:00Thanks Natalie! Sounds like you two are kind of in...Thanks Natalie! Sounds like you two are kind of in the same boat as us: You thought you would, he doesn't want to - but you can easily see the pros and cons of both sides. Thanks! we'll see how long this "decision" not to find out holds out!Laura https://www.blogger.com/profile/14999684457315081240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-45221287250118626452013-06-12T15:09:07.543-04:002013-06-12T15:09:07.543-04:00LOLOL omg Kate, I love that cake! I've never s...LOLOL omg Kate, I love that cake! I've never seen that! Hmmm..this might be enough to turn Chris's decision around. Will report back :)Laura https://www.blogger.com/profile/14999684457315081240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-7154054556680537192013-06-12T14:51:27.075-04:002013-06-12T14:51:27.075-04:00My husband and I have a deal that if we have a boy...My husband and I have a deal that if we have a boy and then a girl, the third will be a surprise. I'm a planner and I have to know what this baby is (we hopefully find out in an hour!) but after waiting 2 years for this baby I'm anxious to call this baby by name because we've prayed for so long for this little person. I don't believe for a second that it will be any less special finding out now as opposed to the birth day. Whatever you decide to do will be right for YOU! Rebekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18164589484233067509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-71198611227956635322013-06-12T14:26:24.837-04:002013-06-12T14:26:24.837-04:00Well, Eli and I aren't planning on having kids...Well, Eli and I aren't planning on having kids, but I had always assumed if I /did/, then I'd want to know (also because of the fact that I'm anal and the planning the nursery thing). Most of your points for Team Green were things that I had never thought of! And @Shannon, I think your post is great! I love the idea of keeping the name a secret and having that to reveal at the birth.mavanyohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08493450772244519149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-82092583817856910102013-06-12T14:24:25.715-04:002013-06-12T14:24:25.715-04:00Have you seen the gender reveal cake? Ha ha:
http:...Have you seen the gender reveal cake? Ha ha:<br />http://cakesdecor.com/cakes/52530<br /><br />I have nothing to add of use to this conversation other than my love of ducks. You guys will make the right decision no matter what.<br />GatorKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15661445636829733706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-12732501856358791612013-06-12T14:00:04.948-04:002013-06-12T14:00:04.948-04:00I always thought I would want to know gender as so...I always thought I would want to know gender as soon as possible, but Aaron wants to be surprised, and the arguements for team green on here made me a little more open to that idea... I think it is a surprise either way to find out whether it is at 20 weeks or at the end. Good luck with your decision!https://www.blogger.com/profile/16425238115365340973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-30911603368030045382013-06-12T13:41:05.683-04:002013-06-12T13:41:05.683-04:00Ok, these are really great points and things I nev...Ok, these are really great points and things I never thought of. We don't plan on sharing our names either (I don't need people being all "judgy" when I tell them what we've picked) But yes, that's still a special "surprise" thing to announce then. And the c-section - I would hate to miss out on that moment with Chris! Ah! Thanks for sharing your experience, I love having all these things to consider (even if they make my head spin!)Laura https://www.blogger.com/profile/14999684457315081240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-38132395691864650422013-06-12T13:37:50.495-04:002013-06-12T13:37:50.495-04:00LOL I know what you're saying (read above). We...LOL I know what you're saying (read above). We only have one extra bedroom besides ours anyway..so it's inevitable that our first two children will have to share a bedroom when they're young, so we'll have to keep things gender neutral there anyway...so that also helps with the decision.Laura https://www.blogger.com/profile/14999684457315081240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-54723934603475660692013-06-12T13:36:43.300-04:002013-06-12T13:36:43.300-04:00I usually am the same way! And I always thought I&...I usually am the same way! And I always thought I'd HAVE to know! Maybe I'm just trying to prove to myself that I'm not a control freak? or testing myself to see if I have the willpower to hold out? I'm not sure..but for now, I'm fine with not knowing and we'll see if that all changes around month 7 or 8!Laura https://www.blogger.com/profile/14999684457315081240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-58793933165932737932013-06-12T13:35:24.600-04:002013-06-12T13:35:24.600-04:00I honestly was just thinking about this last night...I honestly was just thinking about this last night. That when it comes down to month 7 or 8..I might not be able to hold out and want to know the gender. But if I find out after my shower (or don't tell people until then) when so many things are already decided and purchased, it won't really matter much. Hmm...the wheels are turning...Laura https://www.blogger.com/profile/14999684457315081240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-37545767992461913142013-06-12T13:33:25.440-04:002013-06-12T13:33:25.440-04:00That's something I've thought of...I don&#...That's something I've thought of...I don't like saying "it"...it definitely does lack a connection to something. I like the idea of the gender reveal party, and making it a big special moment. Did you two find out beforehand and then reveal it to your family, or did you find out at the same time as everyone else? In the end, I agree...either way we will be just as surprised and happy in the delivery room. Thanks for chiming in!Laura https://www.blogger.com/profile/14999684457315081240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-44973329165117873142013-06-12T13:30:49.642-04:002013-06-12T13:30:49.642-04:00Well yea..I'm totally trusting my intuition th...Well yea..I'm totally trusting my intuition that I'm having a boy..but when what does that say about me and my intuition when they hand me a girl in November?! I'll feel totally betrayed!Laura https://www.blogger.com/profile/14999684457315081240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-15937650688305964162013-06-12T13:28:14.124-04:002013-06-12T13:28:14.124-04:00My friend plans on doing that! I'm very curiou...My friend plans on doing that! I'm very curious to see how well she does holding out and not telling anyone..I think it would be sooo easy to just slip up and say "she's kicking" or "he's kicking" and then we'll all know! It's a good idea though. I always assumed we'd find out too..that's why I was so shocked when I found out Chris didn't want to...it was just something we had never discussed!Laura https://www.blogger.com/profile/14999684457315081240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-77759165734504637062013-06-12T12:30:59.795-04:002013-06-12T12:30:59.795-04:00Okay so here are my thoughts:
-It's a surprise...Okay so here are my thoughts:<br />-It's a surprise regardless of when you find out so I actually hate that argument. I was SHOCKED when I heard it was a boy during the ultrasound. I was convinced it was a girl so I was glad I knew early so I could process the whole thing for a while. <br /><br />-Even though everyone knew the gender we didn't tell anyone the name so my husband still had the excitment of announcing our sons name to our family in the waiting room after he was born. And it gave everyone something to still look forward to finding out the day of.<br /><br />-So my experience was very unique in that I had a C-section and had to be knocked out during my son's birth and didn't wake up until he was already cleaned up and swaddled so had we not known the gender I would have missed the big moment of finding out the gender along with my husband. For that reason alone I'm grateful I knew what we were having beforehand. Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04356655617475615318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-58778716359334052192013-06-12T11:16:23.761-04:002013-06-12T11:16:23.761-04:00I hope you guys can hold out and not find out. I p...I hope you guys can hold out and not find out. I personally couldn't do it because I am a control freak and would have to know the gender to do the nursery, haha! But that's awesome that you guys are deciding to wait. Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10084599747416359775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-42648418580302104682013-06-12T08:53:25.045-04:002013-06-12T08:53:25.045-04:00Oh man, I don't think I could NOT find out. I ...Oh man, I don't think I could NOT find out. I told my husband that I think the only way would be if it was our third child and we already had one of each then we wouldn't have to "plan" so much. But I'm a control freak. HahaKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14883089486835538679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1301052227457633543.post-91306052770265249132013-06-12T08:45:06.590-04:002013-06-12T08:45:06.590-04:00It's such a tough decision. Chris and I were ...It's such a tough decision. Chris and I were going to be surprised...and then couldn't hold out. We found out, but didn't reveal it until my baby shower - which cut down on the gendered outfits and people actually got us useful stuff! Best of both worlds for us! I think with our second we'll host a gender reveal party since I probably won't have a shower.Jess Beerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00221766921723016245noreply@blogger.com