Team Green: Don't find out the gender
Team Blue/Pink: "You have to carry this thing for 9 months and go through the whole process, it's your body, so YOU decide. It's the least he can do for you."
Team Green: Sure, I might feel tired and exhausted all the time - and I guess being pregnant isn't exactly a picnic, but I don't agree with this notion that pregnancy is "awful" and men are "so lucky" they don't have to go through with this. I think it's an amazing process and it's one that largely Chris doesn't have any physical connection to. All Chris can do for 9 months is watch me go through "raising" our child on my own, and so much of it is out of his hands, and out of his daily life. If this is the one thing he really wants - then, why deny him that moment?
Winner here: Team Green
Team Green: "What else will you have to be excited for in the birthing room if you know the gender already??"
Team Blue/Pink: "Um....the Birth of my CHILD?!"
Team Green: "But there are few things in this world that are surprises anymore, don't you want there to be some sort of surprise or unknown in the delivery room?"
Team Blue/Pink: "The unknown is 'What the hell is life like with a child?!' There are actually FAR too many unknowns in this entire process. If I can have one 'known,' I'll take it."
Winner here: Team Blue/Pink
Team Green: I've read on message boards that letting their husband have that moment in the delivery room to come over to her and tell them the sex of their baby was a magical and amazing moment for both of them and one they wouldn't trade for anything.
Team Blue/Pink: I read Jenny McCarthy's book Belly Laughs and she said that when she knew she was having a son at 5 months along, she could visualize her life with a boy so much more clearly and intensely. She says she wouldn't trade those last few months of day-dreaming about life with a son for anything in the world.
Winner here: No clue, both sound pretty amazing
Team Green: I hear that the people who don't know the gender end up getting WAY more useful items at their baby shower than the people who do. Because if people know it's a boy or girl, they go all crazy buying cute gender specific clothing, most of which the child ends up growing out of before they even get to wear.
Team Blue/Pink: It's easier for people to shop for you and get personalized cute things if they know the gender of the child. I have a few friends who have attended showers where they didn't know the gender and said they had such a hard time shopping for them and almost every single thing the couple received, especially clothing was either gray, yellow, or green.
Winner here: I'm gonna go with Team Green
Team Green: My mother's friend is a nurse in the delivery room and she says that the excitement in the room when the couple doesn't know the gender is completely different and so much better than the couples that already do.
Team Blue/Pink: I can totally see how that's true - but you also can get a really exciting moment having the doctor write down the gender and put it in a sealed envelope...then go out on a nice date night, or open it at home when you're ready and you're both sharing in a really special and exciting moment that way, too. And it's a moment you have time to take in and actually internalize together, rather than share with 10 other doctors and nurses in the room, whisking the baby this way and that and everything happening in literally the blink of an eye. Both moments are amazingly exciting and yield the same result: one just happens earlier than the other. I have already convinced myself that I'm having a boy, so that's just what and how I picture things now...with a boy. If I am handed a girl the day I deliver - I seriously think I might have a panic attack. Of course I'll be happy, but it will just throw me off and confuse me so much. Imagine planning a wedding for 2 years and you think you're marrying one person but when you get to the altar on the day of your wedding it's a completely different person. I think it would feel like that, it will just throw me! On the other hand, if it's a boy...well then, I'm mentally prepared for that.
Winner Here: Team Blue/Pink
Team Green: You get to pick two names!! But at least the hard work is done and out of the way for the next child!
Team Blue/Pink: Thank GOD you only have to pick one name!
Winner here: It doesn't really matter
Team Green: 2
Team Blue/Pink: 2
What about you? Will you find out your baby's gender, or want to find out the gender of your child one day?